Welcome Everyone! Today is Day 2 of How to Be a Better You in 365 Days October Challenge!
Day 1 was awesome! The moment I settled down to do the task with a cuppa, my fingers flexed and thinking cap on… I immediately went online to check how everyone was doing with the tasks. I am absolutely overwhelmed with what I saw.
The reception has been incredible .INCREDIBLE. We’ve received so many people checking out the challenge, following through with the tasks and I cannot express how grateful I am that you (my readers) are following and wanting to learn about what’s happening on our blog.
I’m incredibly excited for all of us, because I see an exciting journey ahead for the next month. We’re going to be doing many different tasks that will help you to be a better YOU, linked with what you’ve written for Day 1′s task – which serves as the foundation platform for your growth.
Thank you to those of you who made the effort to read others’ results and post helpful responses to their replies. It’s because of people like you, with the kindest of hearts and the most selfless intentions that others can grow. For those who have received replies, take time out to process and digest what others have written. At the same time, make a point to return the favour – look for the person’s comment that shares his/her results, and share your thoughts too. This is how mutual, supportive friendships are formed.
That said, let’s now move to Day 2 of 365 Day Challenge
Day 2: Understanding Who You Are
Ensure you’ve officially signed up for the course and you’ve done DAY 1 Task: Realisation – Who Are You?! before you continue on to today’s task.
Today’s task will take about 45 min to an hour.
Yesterday, we assessed ourselves earnestly. We had look at the CCI, on how we saw ourselves against our ideal self. We explored ourselves thoroughly, looking deep and sieving through the traits deep inside of us in the process. What did you find?
Last but not least, we identified 5-7 traits which we want to work on, moving ahead.
All of us wrote down different traits. Abrasiveness. Desire for approval. Being quick to judge others.. Selfishness. Poor time management. Procrastination. Low confidence. Being critical. Being negative. Emotional stinginess. Self-hate. Being fearful. Being high strung. . Anti-social. Aloofness. . . Arrogance. Insecurity. Lack of self-discipline. Indecisiveness. Being disorganized. Weak communication skills. . Presumptuous. . Self-centeredness. Impatience. Lack of focus.
While we maybe not proud of those traits, it’s important that they acknowledge them first and foremost, which is the point of yesterday’s last step of the exercise. Because awareness is the first step towards growth. If we continue to refuse the acknowledgement of a certain trait, say lieing, we can never improve in that area, even if we are the biggest liar out there today.
So what do we do with these negative traits, after identifying them?
Firstly, I want you to know that you shouldn’t reject them or store them away. Meaning –Say you have that you are lazy, self-conceited, and disorganized. Rather than hate these, traits about yourself, and beat yourself up about them, accept that you have these. We are creatures of habit. Learn to accept them. Embrace them. Accept that these make up who you are currently, and these are not things you’re proud of.
The reason why I mentioned that is because resistance will only cause internal conflict, which prevents you from truly improving. The age old saying of “What you resist will persist” is very true in this case. The more you deny that you are X trait, say, lazy, the lazier you’ll become. The more you deny that you’re self-conceited, the more self-conceited you’ll become. And the more you deny that you’re disorganized, the more disorganized you’ll be. And so on. Denying does not solve the problem – it only makes you think that the problem disappears, but it will make it worse over a period of time.
What should we do about our negative traits? The first step is to understand them. Understand why we think we possess this X trait. Understand why this trait bothers us so, so that we have a clear reason for change. Then from there, have an immediate plan to change things around.
Which is what we’re doing for today’s task. Today, we’ll look into our undesired traits, such that we can begin the first step to becoming a better us.
Your Task: Understanding Who Are You?!
From the list of 5-7 traits you wrote on DAY 1: Realisation – Who Are You?!
- I ask that you pick 3 key traits you want to work on this month.
- Write down the 3 traits on your paper.
- For example, if you have biggest issues with being presumptive, being fearful of taking action, and being fearful of criticism, your 3 traits will probably look like this: (1) Presumptuousness (2) Fear of taking action (3) Fear of criticism.
- Why do you think you are <insert trait>?
- Why do you want to change this trait?
- What is one baby step you can do today to change this?
- Taking an example for Presumptuousness:
- Why am I <presumptuous>? Because I think I know better than others. I often assume things about other people (and events), which later turn out to be untrue. I judge people based on certain actions they do, even though these actions may not be indicative of their full character/personality.
- Continuing from example on Presumptuousness:
- Why do I want to change this trait? Because it causes issues, such as having conflicts with people, creating unhappiness in others, assuming things only to realize they are wrong later on, and so on. These are things I want to avoid, because they are unnecessary in the grand scheme of things. They create problems which can be avoided if I’m not presumptuous in the first place.
- Continuing from example on Presumptuousness:
- What is 1 baby step I can do today to change this? I will ask more questions rather than assume things – i.e. going by the motif of “When in doubt, ask”. I’ll give others the benefit of the doubt even if things go wrong. I’ll start to think positively, rather than negatively, of everyone I see today.
- Repeat step #3 for the other 2 traits.
- Schedule the action steps (your answers to step #3.3) in your August calendar.
- Do this if the steps cannot be actioned on today.
- This ensures what you plan gets translated into reality and commits you to action.
Again, feel free to write as much as you want! The more, the better.
Day 2 Reflection
- Is there anything you learned today?
- This can be about yourself, other people, or other things in life.
- This can be related/unrelated to the task, inspired by answers by other participants, inspired by the discussions in the community, due to something that happened in your life today that’s outside of 30BBM.
Share Your Answers!
What are the top 3 traits you want to work on? Why do you want to change these traits? What are you going to do to change them?
Share your answers with the others in the comments area! Check out others’ comments and share your thoughts!