Be a Better You in 365 Days Challenge – DAY 4: Gratitude

Be a Better You in 365 Days Challenge – DAY 4: Gratitude

Welcome everyone! Today is Day 4 of Be a Better Me in 30 Days August Challenge! . View list of tasks: 365 Challenge!

We now have 73 participants in 365 Day Challenge, all ready to change and be a better person this year. I’ve been so overwhelmed by your enthusiasm and rigor to change yourselves for the better. Thank YOU for being here! Thank YOU for your commitment towards growth. Thank YOU for always pushing yourself to the next level, and never saying no to becoming your highest self.

Once again, if you’ve not signed up, please sign up first before proceeding. Why sign up? Because when you sign up (vs. reading the posts passively), you send an open call, a pledge to the universe that you want to be a better person. It gets everything moving.

I ask that you help us in achieving at least 100 participants, by telling everyone you know (that you don’t know), tell a stranger and spread the word for us here at: How to Become a Better You.

Doesn’t matter if it’s Day 4 and you just came across the course now. This is not some race or competition. You can get started on Day 1 right away, then do it at your own pace. The course ends at the start of October 2012, so there’s plenty of time for you to catch up. Also, the tasks are very light and doable – with proper time management, there’s no reason why anyone will have any difficulty completing them in the stipulated time.

Even if you don’t know if you can commit for the whole year/month and you can only do several of the tasks, its okay – pledge your name for the course anyway. By doing even just one task, you’re already in the course, whether you like it or not!!! By reading this post, you’re already deep into the course, whether you like it or not!

Introducing: Day of “Virtues”

Since beginning the challenge about becoming a better person through cultivating positive values, I’ve decided to dedicate days within the 365 Challenge where we can focus on building solid virtues, one day at a time. These tasks are scattered throughout 365 Challenge – usually after every 2-3 main 365 Challenge tasks.

What I like about the Day of “Virtues” is that they let us break from the 365 Challenges tasks, but at the same time, get us steaming ahead towards become a better person. For becoming a better us isn’t and shouldn’t be kept to just a “do X today” or “do Y tomorrow” regime – it’s a vision to be integrated into our daily life. And Day of “Virtues” Tasks is exactly that – they are about living, breathing, and being that virtue for the entire day. For those who have not completed the earlier365 Challenge tasks, you can make use of these days to catch up.

The virtues will be based on important, universal values on what it takes to be a better person. We’ll be living true to different virtues throughout the month of October August, so that by the end of 365 Challenge, we’d have a good taste of various important virtues, after which it’ll be up to us to integrate them into our daily life moving forward.

That said; let’s now move on to today’s task! Today’s virtues are… Gratitude and Kindness.

Day 4: Day of Virtues: Gratitude

Ensure you’ve officially signed up for the course before you continue on to today’s task.

Today’s task is a day long task.


On a scale of 1-10, how kind do you think you are?

“A laugh, to be joyous, must flow from a joyous heart, for without kindness; there can be no true joy.” — Thomas Carlyle

Reason being kindness is such an integral part of being human, and living a better life. Without kindness, the world will be a dark, gloomy place.

On a scale of 1-10, how grateful do you think you are?

“We often take for granted the very things that most deserve our gratitude.” ~Cynthia Ozick

Gratitude is important because it reminds us the things in life that are


important to us, but which we might have overlooked. Amidst setting goals, pursuing goals, it’s important for us to be aware of the things we do have, the things that helped create our current life experience, the things which make us who we are. One of my favourite quotes is by Mark Twain, which says, “The world doesn’t owe you anything. It was here first.” Indeed – the very fact that we’re alive and we get the experience to live, eat and breathe, is in itself a gift to be relished in. All of us have been awarded the best gift on earth which is the gift of life, and since we’ve been given this marvellous gift it’s up to us to make the best out of it.

“For what thanks can we render to God again for you, for all the joy wherewith we joy for your sakes before our God”; — I. Thessalonians 3.9

“And whatsoever ye do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God and the Father by him”. — Colossians 3.17

Today’s Task

 1.     Write What You’re Grateful For…

Start on a new page… On top, write “Things I’m Grateful For In My Life”. The first part is to write what you’re grateful for in life. Below are helping points:

  1. Look back to what you wrote for yesterday’s reflection exercise. Look at who you are and how far you’ve come.
  1. Who would you like to give thanks to?
  2. What would you like to give thanks to?
  • What are you grateful for today?
    • People: Think about your family, your friends, colleagues, acquaintances. Each of them play a special role in your life. What are you grateful to each of them for?
    • Things: What do you have in your life? What are you grateful about?
    • Place: Where do you stay? What are you grateful about it?
    • Experiences: What have you experienced in your life? What are you grateful about each of them?
  1. Imagine if you are to swap bodies with a random person on the street now. What would you miss? What would you want back? These are the things that matter to you.
  2. As you move through today, look at everything with a sense of awe and wonder. Imagine if this is not in your life. How would you feel? Is this something you’re grateful to have?

Write down as many things as you can, even if it may seem small. Nothing is too small to give gratitude to.

Some of you may have created your own gratitude journals in the past, where you write down what you’re grateful for. You can still do this exercise all the same! Gratitude has no boundaries. Through gratitude, we grow as souls.

2.     Let Others Know Your Gratitude

The 2nd part of the exercise is to let others know about your gratitude. Many times we don’t express thanks overtly, especially to people that are close to us, because we feel that they should know it intuitively. Yet we should, because unless we let them know how we really feel, they won’t know.

  1. List down at least 3 people you want to give thanks to.
  2. Think about what you’re grateful to them about. From the little things they do for you daily, to specific incidences.
  3. Write a thank you note / email / card to each of them. On it, write:
  1. Thank him/her and why you’re saying thanks
  2. How much you appreciate him/her
  3. What he/she means to you
  • Send the note off to him/her. Check to ensure he/she gets it.

You can do this in person, though most people may find it awkward to do so. Having it down on paper / email is also a nice way for the other party to have remembrance.

Day 4 Reflection for How to Become a Better Person in 365 Days, Challenge!

  1. Is there anything you learned today?
  2. If so, what is it? Write it down.

Share Your Answers!

What acts of kindness did you do today? How was the experience? What have you learned? 🙂


6 thoughts on “Be a Better You in 365 Days Challenge – DAY 4: Gratitude

  1. Day 4-
    How kind?- 5
    Gratitude?- 4
    Things I’m Grateful For In My Life –
    My wonderful family and extended family, My marriage, health, Down Syndrome Association, I’m able to improve myself, My creativity, Ability to sew/crochet, computers and the internet, I’m able to eat when I’m hungry and go inside when I’m cold, I can take a shower when I’m dirty, We have a car, My husband’s job, My son’s speech therapy, My daughter’s fantastic school, That I’m able to go on field trips with my kids, I was able to go on yearly vacations as a young girl, My mom and step dad took care of me when I was pregnant at 17 and then continued helping when my daughter was born, My church family, God he’s been holding my hand through everything, This Day 4 challenge
    1. swap bodies- I would miss my husband, my two children, my mom, my step-dad, all my brothers, grandma, other extended family, my creativity I was so blessed with, my ability to sew/crochet
    2. how would I feel if this wasn’t my life- I would see how loved I really am and what a wonderful family I have. Since today is Sunday I would see the small but great church family I have. How sweet and cuddley my son is and how much he really needs me, how independant and compassionate my daugher is, and what a great husband I have who helps with the kids and loves me unconditionally!
    1. Give thanks- my husband, my daughter, my son, my mom, my step-dad, my grandma
    Learned- I’ve realized today that I may not have the nicest house or car but I do have the thing that matter most in life: Love. I have the most awesome family and I didn’t recognize how blessed I really am!
    Thank you!

    1. Hi Elizabeth,

      Thank you for sharing your honesty and insightful comments about you and what you are going through. I can imagine there are plenty of us who can relate to you and how you are feeling.

      You have such a wonderful, loving, supporting and inspiring family to help you through life and grow with. Its amazing Elizabeth and I’m are happy that you have found some peace in your life. Congratulations!

      I wish you all the best in this Challenge in becoming a better you. You are in my thoughts!

      All the Best,
      Ezzy ♥

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