Be a Better You in 365 Days Challenge – DAY 19 What Are Your Goals?

This is Day 19 of How to Be a Better Person in 365 Days (365 Challenge) October 2011 Challenge. View list of tasks: 365 Challenge Overview

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In Day3, we set our ideal lives. What we asked ourselves “What would I do if I can never, ever fail? What would I do if I have unlimited resources, time or networks?” Many of us uncovered dreams that we never knew we had, or dreams we had put away at some point in time. Many of us felt inspired, reawakened when we uncovered our dreams. Some of us were moved into tears writing our biggest dreams and reconnecting with our real selves. Guess what? Your dreams have been yours for the taking all along. You have the power to do whatever you want, to achieve whatever you want. It starts with first integrating them into our life plan. Today, we’ll be setting our life goals.

Day 19 – Your Life Goals

“In life, as in football, you won’t go far unless you know where the goalposts are.” – Arnold H. Glasgow

“The trouble with not having a goal is that you can spend your life running up and down the field and never score.” – Bill Copeland

Goal setting is the first step towards living your ideal life. It marks your first point towards success. It is what put your life into real action mode. Without this step, the other steps of goal achievement cannot take place.

The difference between dreams and goals are that goals are dreams with deadlines.

When you set goals, you…

  1. Get clarity on your end vision. It makes you crystallize and articulate the desires floating in your mind. It ensures that you are channeling your time, energy and efforts into things that really matter to you. It makes you live more consciously.
  2. Are driven to move forward. Your goals are a representation of your inner desires; desires which motivate you in life. The point when you set goals marks one the points when you are most connected with your source of motivation. It is when your motivation is at its peak. Having goals at your side serve as constant reminders of your motivational sources. They are the fuel which drive you forward and keep you going when the going gets tough.
  3. Have laser focus. Goals give you a single focal point to place your attention in. Whereas your purpose gives you a broad, directional focus to move your life in, goals gives you laser focus on what exactly to spend your time and energy on. Think of your time, energy and efforts as input, and results as the output. A goal acts as your funnel which guides and channels those inputs effectively into your desired output.
  4. Become accountable. Having goals makes you accountable. Rather than just talking about what you want all the time and not do anything concrete about them, you are now obligated to take action. Setting a specific goal gives you clarity on whether you are living up against what you committed yourself to do when you first set your goal.
  5. Are the best you can be. Goals help you achieve your highest potential. Without goals, you subject yourself to the natural, default set of actions that keep you feel safe and comfortable every day. But this familiarity is the nemesis of growth. It prevents you from growing. It does not enable you to become the best person you can be. It denies you from tapping into all that potential inside of you.
  6. Get to live your best life. Goals with specific measures and deadlines ensure we are maximizing our output and experiences during our time here. Having defined your mission statement, your goals will ensure you get the best out of your purpose.

Look at the date today. What is it? Today, we are going to be the architect of our future. Today, we’re going to define what we want for ourselves for our future ahead.

Your Task

Part 1: Assessing Your Present (20 min)

Before we set goals, first let’s have a snapshot of how your life is now. Start on a new page.  On top, write “My Present Self on ___________” (where the blank is today’s date)

  1. On Day 1, we did the life wheel to assess your present via scoring it on a scale of 1-10/10. Now, I’d like you to describe how your life is in the 10 categories of your life. (refer to life wheel)
  2. Be as detailed as possible and cover every category.
  3. How do you feel about each category? What if you are to remain with this forever? Will you want that?

Now with your present identified, it’s time to envision your future.

Part 2: What Are Your Biggest Life Goals? (40 min)

Start on a new page of your workbook. On top, write “My Life Goals”

  1. Set your life goals. What do you want to do in your life?
    • Look at your ideal life. What are your biggest goals and dreams? If you can never fail, what would you do? Crystallize your dreams into goals.
    • Look at your mission statement. What does it mean to live the truest to your mission? What are the goals you should be setting?
    • What if you were to live forever? What would you want to try?  What would you want to do? What would you want to achieve?
  2. Magnify your goals! This is the mind boggling part that throws some of my 1-1 clients in a mind warp. Magnify your original goals by 2x, 3x or even more depending on how far you can stretch yourself. How will you feel if you achieve these goals instead? Will you feel even happier? Ecstatic? Like it’s unimaginable? Surreal? Mind boggling? Indescribable? Which one do you prefer – 2x, 3x or 10x of your original goal, or the original goal? If it’s the former, how about setting these as your goals instead? Why do you want to sell yourself short for? Go for as much as you can – there are no limits on what you can achieve!
  3. Be as specific as you can! Remember, the more specific you are, the better. Think of it as shooting a dartboard – You can’t hit the bulls-eye if you can’t see the markings. Similarly, you can’t get to your goal if you’re not clear on it to begin with. Ask yourself what exactly you want, then go from there. Keep writing until it’s very clear and vivid. Example:
    • “I want to be very rich” can be – “I want to earn $20k passive income a month, with $200k savings in my bank account”
    • “I want to be a successful writer” can be – “I want to be the #1 renowned writer in the world with 5 best sellers on Literary and Romance Novels in New York Times and Business Week”
    • “I want to have a happy family” can be – “I want to married to a great wife, 2 kids, one boy and one girl, living in Amsterdam”
  4. Ensure your goals cover all 10 key categories of life wheel

Part 3: Break down into 5, 3, 1 Year Goals

  1. 5 year goals. Fill in the 1st column with your 5 year goals from above. With your ideal future in mind above, what do you want to achieve in 5 years? If the column is not enough (probably not!), print out as many copies as you need.
  2. Break down into 3 year goals. From your 5 year goals, do a break down and identify what you need to achieve in 3 years to make them happen.
  3. Break down into 1 year goals. Now, break them down further. Set your 1 year goals.

As you fill in all 3 columns, you should see a progression from your 1 year, 3 year and 5 year goals. You can also draw the rows across the columns if you want to categorize the goals into the 10 categories so you can clearly see how each goal progresses in the 1-3-5 year time frame.

Day 19 Reflection for 365 Challenge

  1. Is there anything you learned today?
  2. If so, what is it? Write it down.

Share Your Answers!

Who did you choose to write your thank you note to today? What did you write to him/her? What mode of communication did you choose?

Tomorrow, we’ll discuss more on our 1 year goals and achieving them.

Day 20 of Your 30 Day Action Plan

Refer to Day 10 actions you set and get into action with them today!